As much as society wants you to believe that loyalty to other people or things is compulsory, I'm here to tell you that that is a lie.

Your loyalty must be to who YOU are first and foremost. As an adult it is your mission to accept that you have a soul and then do the work required to remain loyal to it. 

When you do anything with pure intentions, you will be able to live a life without regrets. Pinning your hopes and dreams on someone else to manifest them for you will leave you feeling empty. The impure intention in this case was to make someone else be responsible for your life. 

Only you can be responsible for your life. Whatever exists in your life today is there because you want it to be there...good and bad. The second YOU decide that you want something different, YOU can make it happen. Does this mean that you may cause pain to others while finding yourself? Yes. But you will resolve that within yourself in order to move on in life with pure intentions. These moments are called life's lessons. 

You owe it to yourself to be loyal to YOU to be able to have true love, peace, and an abundance of positive energy. It is the right way to live. <3

Are you driven by ego or by soul? It's one or the other, you cannot be both at the same time. Here's a small sampling.

EGO:
-me, me, me, me
-impure intentions
-dislikes other beings
-negative head talk
-unaware

SOUL:
-empathy
-pure intentions
-has love for other beings
-positive feelings and thoughts
-aware

Ego brings negative energy into the world. It's what we are feeling now. Too many egos that are not living in the now. 

Soul brings positive energy into the world. It's what we need more of now than ever. 

Be aware. It's in all of our best interest. <3

I dream every night. Some nights are gentle dreams and other nights are those lucid dreams that make you feel disoriented when you wake up.

Dreams fascinate me. Sometimes you are watching the dream happen and other times you are playing a part in the dream. Either way, its pretty impressive what happens in your mind while you sleep which you have no control over. 

​If I have a pretty intense dream, I'll scan the internet to try and interpret the dream. I do believe that our dreams are a reflection of our awake time and messages are conveyed to us through our dreams. We receive signs from God, Creator, Universe, Higher Power while awake and asleep.

How many times have you daydreamed, or had someone tell you to stop daydreaming? Those day dreams are valid and should be acknowledged as more than wasting time. 

There is no such thing as time. There is only ever now this moment. Live in the moment. Dream in the moment. Be in the moment. Your dreams are a way of letting you know that its okay to just be. <3

Two things:
1. We are taught that to be idle implies laziness.
2. Busyness is a way to avoid truth.

I've been that 10 hour employee working unpaid weekends. I've been the one volunteering for everything.
I've been the one with a kid doing every team and activity.

It was important that people saw me doing all the right things. Then it occurred to me, "who are these people and why should I give a damn what they think?"

That was a liberating moment. 

Then it became about me. Who am I and what do I think about me? To be honest, I wasn't liking me very much. I felt like I was living someone else's life and ignoring the real me. 

Truth really does set you free. You cannot stop the journey towards truth after taking the first step. Inevitably you will change your mind about pleasing others to your own detriment. It will become very important for you to find the peace that we all crave and can have if we choose to have it. 

Truth: They don't matter. They don't exist, except in your mind. <3

,Everyone has something that they are good at doing. Sometimes we may have to pause and consider what that thing might be, but it is there. I marvel at the talents that others have that I've attempted, but it wasn't meant to be my thing.

For me, its problem solving...not math problems, but life's challenges. An example would be trying to fit a table into the back of an SUV that isn't going to allow the hatch back to close. There is no rope handy, so a six foot extension cord tied to the table and the front seats secured it for the ten block ride to its destination. 

There is always a solution to every situation if you keep your mind open and look for one. Worry, fret, anxiety, and fear are things that we allow our mind to feel. They deter us from seeing the solution in every situation. The beauty is, you have the power to stop negative emotions anytime you want. You have the ability to control your mind in every situation.

Nothing is real until you make it real. There is no boogey man under your bed. It is only there because you allow your mind to think it is there. You allow your mind to generate the fear that is needed to make you believe you have a boogey man under your bed. You have the power to stop that belief anytime you want.

The solution to living a life without fear is realizing that its YOU who keeps a fear alive. This realization is the talent that we all possess. <3

It occurred to me while on my journey of healing that I would have to meet up with my inner child. She is the one who endured most of the unasked for pain from others. She is the one who was the keeper of all of my limiting beliefs.

Our time together was grief filled. Me wanting her to let go and her not believing that I could manage on my own. She'd been the one to shield my heart from more pain, not realizing that it was also stopping me from giving and receiving love.

As for my inner teenager, she too experienced unasked for pain, but was pretty much numbed out by then to really care one way or the other.

My adult self is when I realized that it was up to me to have the life that I knew I was worthy to have. I took back all of my power. I forgave others and I forgave myself. Finding gratitude in all things taught me to love. Realizing that there is no past, there is no future, there is only now brought me wisdom. Understanding that nothing exists unless I want it to exist gave me peace. Meeting my soul and accepting my purpose has given me a front row seat to the awesomeness that is God. <3

An important part of healing one's self, is the ability to stop allowing biased opinions to sway you on your journey. We've been taught that we should get others to weigh in on decisions that aren't their concern to begin with. If they care about you, their advise may be sincere, if they fake care about you, their advise will most likely come from a place of jealousy or envy.

There is no one on this planet that cares about you more than you should care about yourself. (Full Stop). 

We want to believe that love comes from others, when in actuality, love can only come from yourself to yourself. People come and go from your life, but you are the constant presence in the mirror. If you cannot be brave enough to love yourself, you will always feel alone/lonely when people remove themselves from your existence.

The bravery it takes to find one's soul, love one's soul, and trust one's soul can only be found when you stop criticizing and giving yourself negative feedback. 

As Ryan Gosling said in The Notebook, "what do you want?"  Always start from that place; answer it truthfully, and then be brave enough with your own life. <3

I am an early riser...5:00 a.m. or 6:00 a.m. everyday because I want to wring out every possible moment of enlightenment the day has to offer. Sleep for me is simply a time to rest my body, while my mind sorts & files what I want it to.

Gaining sunlight during the summer from 5:00 a.m. until 10:00 p.m. is one of my favorite things. Watching it slowly leave as we move towards fall reminds me to not take anything for granted. Live life like you mean it.

​When I open my eyes in the morning, I feel blessed that I did. I spend time, before I leave my bed, sorting my mind and determining what will receive my energy. I decide how my now is going to be regardless of what may cross my path at some point. 

Your now is all there ever is. Nothing else exists until you want it to exist. You have the power to design your now to be whatever you want it to be. 

We find it hard to live in the now because we choose to lug around a whole pile of "stuff" from the past that is irrelevant and are falsely imagine a future that never happens. All you ever have is the now. Fussing about the "past" and worrying about the "future" uses valuable energy that could be put to better use. 

Think of it this way, the only thing that exists is what your mind thinks and your five senses can understand. For example: when you move to another room the new room will exist and the room you left no longer exists until you return to it in your now. Your loved ones don't exist until you hear, smell, touch, taste, or see them. When they leave for work or school, they no longer exist in your now. Your neighbor's dog doesn't exist until you hear it bark. When it stops barking it no longer exists in your now.

It's a mind bending reality that brings peace to the mind. The only thing you will ever be able to control in life is your mind in the now. That is it. <3

If you ever get the chance to watch the Truman Show starring Jim Carrey, please do. 

The whole premise behind the movie is that we are in someway controlled by "the" system. Jim's character teaches us to think outside the box and to realize just how  powerful the mind can be.

We are conditioned to feel comfort in our "3 feet of personal space" to give us a sense that we own the space in someway. In that case, you would "own" a lot of space as you move from place to place throughout your day.

The only space you actually "own" is between your ears. Your ego roars over the whisper of your mind ensuring that you stay inside the societal box. When you realize that you are the watcher of your mind, of your thoughts, you can shush the roar and hear the truth of your being. You can think like there is no box. 

James Allen - As A Man Thinketh (1903) - "Mind is the master power that molds and makes, and man is mind, and evermore he takes the tool of thought, and shaping what he wills, brings forth a thousand joys, a thousand ills: - He thinks in secret and it comes to pass: environment is but his looking glass. The aphorism, “As a man thinketh in his heart so is he”, not only embraces the whole of a man's being, but it is so comprehensive as to reach out to every condition and circumstance of his life. A man is literally what he thinks, his character being the complete sum of all his thoughts."

"You're an odd duck". By whose standards?

Is it a compliment or an insult when someone suggests that you are: outside the norm; a rebel; an oddity? I take it as a compliment, because I don't want to be like everyone else. I want to be me. I want to just be.

Being yourself isn't revered in a world where conformity is trained into you from the day you are born by someone who had it done to them and so on and so on.

Our souls aren't meant to be like caged birds for the delight of the egos that know how not to be caged. Our souls are meant to feel freedom; not shackled to egos that were formed from centuries of imperfect training.

If as much time was given to furnishing the soul as is given to feeding the ego, we'd be living in a very different time. The fascinating thing is that we have the ability to flip the switch from me, me, me to us, us us anytime we want. 

When you come to understand yourself / your soul, it is inevitable that you will find out the truth about why you are here. <3