God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. I read this prayer in my younger days and never caught its meaning. Its message hit me hard the first time I actually understood the words "the wisdom to know the difference". 

​The hardest thing I ever had to do in my life was to learn how to give up control and to trust. I feel sheepish now to have thought that I was in control of anything other than my own thoughts. 

Control is an illusion. It's something we do so that we aren't fearful of the unknown. Fear is what drives control, but like I said, we can't control anything other than our thoughts. 

Your mind is a very powerful tool. It can be used to build you up or to tear you down. All done by you. It's what you can control. 

Try this. Ask yourself, "what is my next thought going to be" and see what happens. It's mind blowing for people to realize the truth. You are in control of one thing and one thing only and that is your mind. Use it wisely. <3

An excerpt from Chapter 5 of my book "The Sun Neither Rises nor Sets":

"Believing that your soul has a mission is the starting point to what only your soul can envision.
Accepting the mission of what your soul knows as true will be a hard thing your soul must go through.
Following through with the mission is a hard test, and not doing so will give your soul unrest.
By believing, accepting, and following through, your soul will find peace in all that you do.
When you add up the peace each soul has found, a whisper will be heard worldwide that is profound.
Our differences will cease to exist, because we know that good conquers the evil we could not resist.
The next time someone tells you to follow your head or your heart, call on your soul to play out its part.
For your body is where your soul must reside, and inside of your soul is where God must decide."

Assess your relationships and determine which ones you are keeping to avoid a change. Do this with all areas of your life and I'll bet you aren't making a necessary change because it could disrupt someone else's life. We are not meant to live in this kind of duress. 

We've accepted that it is okay to take our misery out on another person. We've made it okay to hurt the ones we love and to accept their hurt in return. This is not how it is supposed to be. Heaping your woes onto someone else for them to cope with is inhumane. How can they cope with your dysfunction while still trying to cope with their own? 

If you want peace in your life...change yourself first. Deal with what needs to be dealt with in your own mind and heart before you take on someone else's stuff. When you are ready to own your stuff, you are ready to allow others to own theirs. Acceptance becomes change. Pain becomes peace. ​

Do your own healing work on yourself. You owe it to yourself and no one else. <3

Believe in yourself, because no on else does. That is the truth. Not even your own mother believes in you like you should believe in yourself. Why is that? Well, its because everyone has their own life to live and you are not in their every waking thought.

However, you ARE in your own every waking thought. Therefore you should believe in yourself above all else. By doing this you have no one else to pin your successes and failures on. You get to own them all and that is the right way to live.

Suffice to say that we can't go it alone. We do need other souls to move us along in life...job, relationships, family. But when all is said and done your life's choices were yours and yours alone to make. Hopefully you make those decisions depending on your own "wings" knowing that the outcome was yours to own. 

When you live your life knowing you are accountable for it, you will appreciate it in a whole other way. Always believe in yourself. <3

Every circumstance in one's life serves a purpose. Whether you move with the moment or remain still, an outcome is inevitable. How that outcome affects you depends on whether you move or remain still.

I've done either or at different times and the outcomes have been good and bad. The challenge for me and for all of us is knowing when to move or remain still.

The only way to get it right is to trust your intuitive self without hesitation. This takes practice and a whole lot of faith in your higher power. 

How do you know when you've made the right decision? You will have peace. Your soul will rest easily. You will have no regrets. You will just know that it was the right thing to do and the outcome will favour you. 

Trust yourself. Your path forward is the only one that matters. Choose wisely at each fork in the road. <3

It's 2023 and there are still barbaric wars taking place. People killing other people for...what? Age old beliefs that have been brainwashed into humans for generations?

We are not a powerful species, but the bullets and other tactics used to harm other humans are powerful. A human can be taken out with one well placed bullet. A gun's purpose is timeless. Why is war valued over a human life? 

This constant need for control of "power" has not worked out well for our species. There is actually only a small percentage of people who are drunk on "power" which means they can't think straight. The good news is is that the vast majority of people who want peace are questioning what this "power" actually means.

If all the people seeking power were left on earth by themselves they would only have each other to try and control. There is no fun in that. They need the peacekeepers to shield themselves from each other. Think about that very carefully. 

The reason there are only a few who are drunk on power while the rest want peace, is because our species by nature is a loving species. This thirst for power and pitting us against each other is odd behaviour and is why it is revolted against. 

Sometimes I like to join the bear, the raccoon, the mouse, and the rabbit and wonder how things could be if we shared love instead of hate. A planet of peace is my wish for all of us. It is possible you know. <3 

It is impossible to get what you desire in life unless you are willing to part with the undesirables. A bad relationship. An unhappy work environment. A toxic friendship. A dysfunctional family. There is a common denominator in all of these circumstances and that commonality is you.

You have the power to change everything in your life just because you choose to do it. Yes, you are that powerful. 

Think of it this way. You drew the undesirables to you by choice and that means you can push them away from you by choice. Yes, you are that powerful.

We stay in unhappy spaces because we are getting some benefit from being there. We talk ourselves into believing that this is all there ever will be for us, but that is the furthest thing from the truth. 

Never say, "it can't get any better than this". Say instead "how can it get better than this?" Saying the second one out loud allows God, Creator, Universe, Higher Power to show you how it can get better. You part is your willingness  to break up with the old in order to embrace the new. <3

Sometimes I get this surge of energy that feels like freedom. It's a feeling like I can do whatever the heck I want because I'm not answerable to anyone. It's my ego talking and the feeling quickly fades because my soul knows that that is untrue.

We are all answerable for the choices we make. Maybe not to another human, but we are to the universal energies that move with our every decision. No decision can happen without a ripple effect occurring. 

If you choose "correctly" the path of least resistance opens up. If you choose "wrongly" it becomes clear very quickly that you're not on the right path. How you react in both of these situations will determine who you are answerable to. 

If you chose "correctly" find the gratitude in that decision. If you chose "wrongly" forgive yourself and try again. Every decision in life comes with a lesson. Learn the lesson and move forward. Change your patterns to something that you want to be answerable for. <3

It doesn't matter how "fixed" you think your life is, there will always be a detour when you least expect it. Your everyday route through life decides that repairs are needed and you are forced to change course. 

If you've done self-awareness work on yourself, the detour will be accepted with little concern. If you've left your ego in charge, the detour is going to be a problem. 

Fear is the deciding factor on how you will manage your detour. If you fear the unknown the detour is going to cause great anxiety. If you trust that God, Creator, Universe, Higher Power has your back the detour is going to bring understanding. 

A detour is a small inconvenience in the whole scheme of things. Our lives aren't supposed to be without inconvenience. It's how we learn gratitude for those times when there are no detours to contend with. We have a tendency to get complacent when life is going well. We need those reminders to ensure we grasp the importance of being grateful regardless of our life's circumstances.

The next time you see the barricades and flashing lights indicating that change is coming...feel gratitude knowing that you will be taking the right route. <3

"Suck it up". "Grow up". "Get over it". How often were these words said to you while growing up? Enough that you learned how to tamp down emotions to make someone else feel better?

Adults are a messed up group of humans. Everyone has some sort of dysfunction passed along to them by someone who was also learning. That's not to say that you have to be okay with that person, it just means that you need to recognize that they are imperfect, just like you.

We have to feel the negatives in life in order to appreciate the positives. The negatives are taught to by us by others. The positives are taught to us by others. How to live your life with these two energies is decided by you.

Facing the pros and cons of making a decision can be difficult to do. Many decision are made without determining the pros and cons. These decisions usually end up impacting our lives in an unwanted way because we didn't discern on the accountability we'd need to own. 

How do I know if I've made the right decision? I feel peace because I know I'm not trying to control an outcome that isn't mine to control. There is a certain amount of sadness that comes with that. And that is okay. <3