In a society that dictates that you must go-go-go...it's good to remember that resting is okay. Of course, there can be too much resting and "when you rest too much, you rust" may become likely.

Finding that healthy balance of the harmony of one's soul and the obligations of one's soul can be tricky. While achieving these two important life lessons it can get overwhelming at times. When that happens it is perfectly okay to stop and lean on your higher power. 

You are not a machine. You are an imperfect being just like everyone else. And, just like everyone else, you can't make it through life on your own. Everyone needs someone to lean on. Everyone needs a higher power to lean on. It is impossible to go it alone.

Listen to your soul's cue's. There is a huge difference between "I need sleep" tired, and "my soul is tired" tired. If getting a solid night's sleep bounces you back, you were tired. If getting a solid night's sleep doesn't bounce you back, your soul is giving you a sign to slow down. Sleep is when we rejuvenate, if that doesn't happen, you need more time to rest. If you don't take that time, the lack of resting will catch up with you and take you down.

Nap. Sit quietly in nature. Do a good deed. Or anything else that brings you peace. This is the rest that the soul craves. <3

You know that feeling you have when you feel you are right, but it takes effort to feel that way? Like you have to force yourself to feel that way. Chances are you aren't right, you are being stubborn. 

Doing the right thing should never feel forced, it should flow from you without thought. When that is the feeling you have, you know you've picked the right "battle". 

So often in life, we grind in and refuse to let go or see things another way and valuable time is wasted. Time that could be spent feeling good about one's self. 

There are two for sure things in life...what you can "control" and what you cannot control. How you think is in your control. The outcomes of any situation are not in your control. Wisdom is understanding that having "control" of anything other than your own thoughts is an illusion. 

So, instead of expounding valuable energy on battles that you can't win...use the energy for a battle that you can win...owning your thoughts and using them for the good of others and yourself. <3

The four basics of life:
1. Do for others as you want them to do for you.
2. If you have gossip to share, say it to the victim first.
3. You do you and I'll do me.
4. Karma always comes around.

Every single human being has wished that someone didn't succeed. Yes, that includes you. Deny it or not, you know it is true. 

It's bothersome for us to see someone else achieving their goals/dreams while we remain stagnant. Our misery very much wants company, so we do and say things that aren't appreciated by the recipient. 

The need to tear others down gives a short term feeling of satisfaction, but it is always followed up with a healthy dose of karma. You cannot treat others poorly and not expect it to come back around to you. Which is probably why you remain stagnant in the first place. 

If it irks you that others are progressing and you are not, you really need to check in with yourself. You need to accept that the only reason you remain still is because you CHOOSE to remain still. Everything in life starts and ends with you. You determine your successes and failures. You, and only you. Full stop. <3

​“Beauty is but skin deep, ugly to the bone. And when beauty fades away, ugly claims its own.” Dorothy West 
"No amount of makeup or clothing can cover the ugliness that lays within." Kim LM Longstreet

Beauty: The adjustment of all parts proportionately so that one cannot add or subtract or change without impairing the harmony of the whole.

That old saying that you can't judge a book by its cover in all cases is absolutely correct. Making a snap judgement about someone based on the $value$ of what they are wearing is ALWAYS wrong. 

For a true understanding of someone's character, look into their eyes in order to see their soul. That is the only beauty that matters in life. Nature's own beauty confirms that for us. Its beauty has no earthly value and therefore we can't help but to see its raw beauty. 

​There is beauty in all beings and there is ugliness in all beings. Learning the difference will bring us all peace.<3

In July 2023 I was supposed to do an interview with Jack Canfield for my book "The Sun Neither Rises nor Sets". Unfortunately, I lost my voice for the entire month of July, so the interview was postponed to September 22nd.

Thankfully, this time we were able to complete the interview! A portion of the interview was a discussion about not feeling guilty for loving one's self. It is not selfish to want to put your soul first in order to be ready to assist other soul's when needed. 

Through no fault of our own I'd say the mass majority of people were raised to put other's needs before their own. I absolutely understand the importance of regarding each other's soul, but not to the detriment of your own soul. 

The kindest thing your can do for other people, is to take care of yourself first. When you take the time to do this you will present a more peaceful person to the world. When you are peaceful, you can make others feel the same. 

We are a loving species. It's actually what we want to do. It's what we are meant to do. All that negativity and ugliness that is in the way can end, if we choose to end it. We do have that much power as a species. <3

In my book "The Sun Neither Rises nor Sets" I use the word soul over 800 times. People ask me all the time, "who, what, where, when, how, and why is a soul?" Tough question to answer in a few short sentences!

Who: Your soul is your essence. It's what looks back at you when you look in a mirror.
What: Your soul is energy and it remains with you until that energy is no longer needed on earth. 
Where: Your soul is all of you. You cannot live without a soul. It's like a battery in a car. 
When: Your soul is yours from a human beings conception to their death. 
How: Everything is energy. You are energy. Your soul is energy. You are created from all the glorious energy that makes up the universe. 
Why: Scientists say that 117 billion people have been on this planet which is 4.5 billion years old. You are one of the 117 billion people that have transpired here. Take that extraordinary bit of information and get to understand your soul and in doing so you will learn your why. <3

"Inhale the flower's aroma; blow out the candle's flame". When you need to get into a calm state, this is the mantra to use. Deeply inhale and deeply exhale. You wouldn't think that it brings peace, but it really does.

Until it was pointed out to me how much stress I actually hold in all parts of my body, I was always "clenched". My jaw, my tongue, my brow, my back, my shoulders, my thighs, and yes, my anus. Also, I didn't realize how much I clench and unclench my toes! Nothing about me resonated peace. 

Now at the first sign of annoyance on my part, I will quickly assess the state of my body. If something is tense, I know to breathe and get myself "aware" and "in the now". Most importantly I have to decide what am I able to control about a situation and what can I not control. Then I can just be. 

Remember: There is no past, there is no future, there is only ever now. Staying in the now removes all kinds of unnecessary worry. It allows you to remain calm and exude calmness. The next moment is never guaranteed, so you might as well enjoy where you are at in each moment. <3

Of the five of these, the last one has been my struggle all my life. I used to think that not asking for help was a sign to everyone that I had it together. It worked, because no one ever asked if I needed anything, they just assumed I was okay. For the most part I was, but there were times when I should have asked, but didn't. 

If you know someone who doesn't ask for help, ask them if they need anything. By doing this you are allowing them to be vulnerable and maybe take you up on your offer. Ultra independent people like me are a hard nut to crack, so asking us every now and then is welcomed, just to let us know that its okay to ask for help if we need to.

As for the other four things on the list:
-always be open to learning.
-we are all imperfect beings. No one has it right.
-seek out your soul...learn to love it.
-all storms eventually pass. 

It's okay to not be okay. <3

No one is going to respect your peace. How could they when there is no understanding of what is going on with your inner self?

If your expectation is that us imperfect beings know what you got going on inside yourself, you're going to be disappointed. Absolutely no one on this planet knows you better than you know yourself. 

When you own your thoughts, your feelings, and your emotions as yours and yours alone, you have peace. Leave others to do the same. It's not your place to take on anyone else's "stuff". Lord knows you have more than enough of your own to cope with. Right?

Start with you. Own your stuff. Protect it. Allow yourself to allow others to own their stuff. This is the formula for a peaceful life.  <3