Why not me?

Why me? I've said it, and I'm sure you've said it, when things are going bad. But do you ever say it when things are going good? Why not me? Why not you? 

Something I've learned in life is that it's not a competition to see who can have the most doom and gloom. You know what I mean. Like when someone shares something traumatic about their life and we have to one up them with a worse story about our own life. Misery does love company. We aren't meant to live in misery.

Something else I've learned in life is that we create our doom and gloom. The only exception to that is when we are children. Other people create our doom and gloom for us when we are a child. Asking yourself, why me, is to accept that it wasn't about you, it was about the imperfect person who got you to doubt yourself. They are doing to you what was done to them at one time. 

As an adult, you can carry on their doom and gloom or you can create something new for yourself. You can say to yourself, why not me? You can do the work to understand that it was never about you. You can use that knowledge to live the life you want to live. And when you are living the life you want to live you need to ask yourself, why me, and answer it with why not me.

Be kind to yourself. Be grateful. Be accepting that we are all imperfect beings. Just be. <3