We listen to respond

I've started to become more aware of how I am listening to others. Am I listening to respond, or am I listening with no need to respond?

If you are doing the latter of the two you are actually listening. If you are doing the first of two, you are getting ready to pounce with your "me too" affirmations. 

By nature I am a problem solver. I've been lovingly called "MacGyver" by those who know me best. This bodes well for me in situations where I logically need to figure out a solution, but not so much when people are sharing their feelings.

Giving an unasked for solution will most likely be overlooked by the confidant, because its not a solution that they seek, its connection. Wait for the "what do you think" before offering your thoughts. If this invite never comes, then its not necessary for you to offer. 

Listen with the intent to listen. Respond when asked to respond. Try it! <3