No contact

There is a name on social media for choosing not to associate with toxic people. They are calling it "no contact". I've always called it setting boundaries.

I made a decision in my thirties to not speak with my father and that held firm right up to his death in my fifties. No bed side confessions were necessary.

It may make you wonder what could have been so bad that I chose not to have a father. What was so unforgiveable? You may be surprised to know that I did forgive my father in my thirties. He didn't care to know that so I never bothered to tell him. It was good enough that I knew. I have never regretted my decision.

Without the "ickyness" that I associated with my father I was able to heal myself and make space for good things to take place for me. 

We are not bound to people simply because they are "family". Two strangers met and you were the result of their meeting. You are here because of their genes. That is where it ends. The rest of who you are meant to be is up to you to figure out, whether life was unpleasant or not.

Learn that fear is an illusion. It only exists in your mind. Let go of anyone or anything that keeps you feeling fearful. The person(s) or thing(s) that you actually need will be there to fill the gap. Trust me on this. <3