You owe nothing to no one and they owe nothing to you.

In a world where you are made to feel obligated to shoulder another's "stuff" its hard to understand that you don't have to do this. You have way more than enough "stuff" of your own to manage without adding to the load.

If you have shackled yourself to another adult being who you no longer want to be with...leave. If you are staying at a job that you hate because of some twisted loyalty...leave. If you have a friend/family member in your life that you know isn't a healthy relationship for you...leave. There is nothing written anywhere that says that you have to be miserable in this lifetime. 

We become unhappy with life because someone, somewhere, one day told us that if we make our bed we have to lie in it. Not true. If you've made a poor choice in life, you need find the courage to move on from it. 

It is not selfish to want your soul to have peace. It is okay to have a change of heart about something. It is okay for you to do you and to accept that others have the right to do the same for themselves. <3

A limiting belief is a thought or state of mind that you believe is the truth and it stops you from experiencing life to its fullest. These beliefs aren't always about yourself and could be about how you think the world works.

One of the biggest limiting beliefs out there is that a person is not worthy to receive what they desire. For some reason they have been conditioned to believe that their thoughts are all there is. They haven't been allowed to recognize that their thoughts are in their mind and no where else. They have lost the ability to believe that they have the power to change their thoughts anytime they want.

You ARE worthy to just be. <3

How others perceive you is none of your business. It does not matter one iota what others think of you. Zero importance.

How you react to the unimportance of how others perceive you is your business. It matters a whole lot what you think about yourself. Mega importance.

No one is thinking about you unless they make themselves think about you or you connect with them in some way. The same way you don't think about anyone else unless you make yourself or you connect with them in some way.

If someone has you on their mind, for whatever reason, that is on them and has nothing to do with you. If you have someone on your mind, for whatever reason, that is on you and has nothing to do with them.

Are you getting it? You are not top of mind for anyone and there is no one top of mind with you. The only way that either/or can happen is through random thoughts or purposeful connection. Knowing this, you should now be able to live life freely and peacefully. <3

What is the plot of your life's story? Are the sequence of events in your life how you want(ed) them to be? What twists and turns need to take place for you to have the life you desire? Are you emotionally, physically, mentally, and spiritually ready for the outcomes you desire?

You cannot have the plot twists in life unless you are prepared to have them. Failure is inevitable when you are unprepared. People call this receiving life lessons, I call this an unawareness of your role in your life's plot.

Paying attention to the Now is a sign of readiness. Holding onto to a nonexistent past and a nonexistent future keeps you from focusing on the Now. The present moment is all that there ever is and ever will be. Stay there. That is how you prepare yourself for your life's plot twists. Trust that all things happen when they are supposed to happen. Your role is to simply enjoy the every day beauty of your life. <3

What I know for sure after 56 years is that it really doesn't matter what people think of you. In my younger day I believed that I was top of mind for people I knew and didn't know. In truth, they were way to busy with their own life to make mine a priority.

And when I focused on my life I realized that like most, I didn't think about people unless they were in my view. This aha moment was the green light for me to just be me and more importantly, let others just be themselves.

When you accept this simple truth about life, you will attract the people that are "your people". You will be able to feel comfortable with them and with yourself. It is then that you know you have arrived. <3

Ick - ​ a sudden feeling of disgust that seems to come out of nowhere.

I remember feeling ick about situations that were happening to me when I was a child in the foster care system. And then later when I moved back to live with family. Back then I had no power to be able to stop the ick. How a child can endure that trauma and survive still boggles my mind. 

As an adult, I distanced myself from the ick regardless of their relation to me or not. It's hard for an outsider to understand why you wouldn't want a relationship with a family member. Frankly, it's not their concern. The importance of removing yourself from dysfunction should take precedence over everything else.

Since choosing me, I have lived a fairly peaceful life because I determined that my peace of mind has to be my first priority. My loyalty is, and always will be, to myself. <3

Something I've learned over my 56 years on this planet...don't go messing where you shouldn't be messing. It is our human nature to get a thought floating in our head and then try to make that thought a reality. We naively think that the thought is indeed a fact. 

Nothing that just "pops" into your mind is fact. Nothing. To act on any of these "pops" is messing where you shouldn't be messing. Unless you, the observer of your thoughts, have thought a thought, it isn't real. Read that again.

If a thought is just floating around in your mind without any due course, its not a real thought. If a thought is deliberately in your mind because you put it there, then it is a real thought. Read that again.

What I know for sure: Think it on purpose. Do what you need to do to make it happen. Trust that it will. Most importantly: Don't go messing where you shouldn't be messing. <3

I'm unsure of the math used to determine this, but we are told that close to 110 billion people have lived on this planet prior to the recent 8 billion. Also according to the math, a male ejaculates 200 to 300 billion sperm at one time, with only one of them successfully meeting an egg.

My point. You are a pretty special being to be counted in the billions that have (had) a life on this planet. You have a purpose whether you understand that or not. Your being here has to happen for reasons that you will most likely never understand.

In the meantime, how about you recognize the awesomeness that is you? How about you trust that what will be, will be, and you should feel blessed to be. <3

I can't quite figure out when it became acceptable to force people to own another's misery. By this I mean, when did it become okay to unload your unhappiness unto others? When did this become acceptable behaviour?

Everyone has their own life concerns to worry about and they don't need yours added to them. If you are one of the people who spreads ugliness in this world, please stop. Instead, how about you figure out why your misery consumes you and do something about it. 

Be kind to yourself. Be kind to others. <3