There is no cookie cutter way to have a relationship with your soul. How we each make this connection is different for each of us and was done in the right way at the right time to ensure there was a deeper meaning involved. 

The relationship with one's soul is personal and not for anyone else to understand. It's a journey that one must make alone and starts with trusting one's ability to stay the course. Commitment for renewal. 

Letting go of things that do not serve your higher purpose isn't easy. Leaving the safety of the known can bring up feelings of fear. Remember though that fear is not real and is only imagined in your mind. It is the major hurdle to overcome in order to live a life with purpose.

Excerpts from As A Man Thinketh by James Allen (1903).

The soul attracts that which it secretly harbors; that which it loves, and also that which it fears; 

."..thoughts of fear, doubt, and indecision crystallise into weak, unmanly, and irresolute habits, which solidify into circumstances of failure, indigence, and slavish dependence:.."

"Thoughts of fear have been known to kill a man as speedily as a bullet,..."

"The people who live in fear of disease are the people who get it."

"They who have no central purpose in their life fall an easy prey to petty worries, fears,..."

"Doubts and fears should be rigorously excluded;..."

Lots of doubt and fear never accomplished anything, and never can. They always lead to failure. Purpose, energy, power to do, and all strong thoughts cease when doubt and fear creep in."

"Doubt and fear are the great enemies of knowledge,..."

"He who has conquered doubt and fear has conquered failure."

I'm an empath and because I'm an empath I forget to include myself as one who also needs me. Us empaths need to be reminded from time to time to keep our own cup full. 

There is a misunderstanding among empaths that exhausting yourself at the expense of others is an honorable thing to do. It isn't. It is naïve to think that you have an unlimited reserve of empathy to share.

It's difficult for an empath to recognize the importance of thinking of oneself before thinking of others. We've been taught that that is selfishness, when we should have been taught that we matter too. 

Practice self-compassion. Self-compassion is simply the process of turning compassion inward.  We are kind and understanding rather than harshly self-critical when we fail, make mistakes or feel inadequate.  We give ourselves support and encouragement rather than being cold and judgmental when challenges and difficulty arise in our lives. 

Give yourself grace. Give the friendly or helpful attitude that you give to other people to yourself too. It's okay to do that. In fact, you cannot be a true empath if you are unwilling to give goodwill to yourself without feeling guilty for doing so. Give yourself grace. <3

There can be no peace in the mind until it is understood that you are in control of what is milling around in there. By this I mean, you are the watcher of what is going on in your mind. Don't believe me?

Imagine a red car. I'm positive that everyone reading this imagined a different red car from one another. Why? Well, it's because YOU determined what the car would be. The red car exists only in your mind because you allow it to exist in your mind. 

Imagine your greatest fear in life. I'm positive that everyone reading this imagined a fear that has its own details that are different from the fears felt by someone else. Why? Well, it's because YOU determined what your fear should be. The fear exists only in your mind because you allow it to exist in your mind. 

Did you notice that the red car was forgotten about while you imagined your fear? Any thought rolling around in your mind is there because you give it permission to be there. Change your mind, change your life. Sounds fairly easy, right? Wrong!

Limiting beliefs don't just disappear. They took a long time to set up shop in your mind and it will take a long time to untangle their stronghold on your aspirations. A limiting belief is buried deeply into your subconscious mind. It was something hurtful that you learned from birth to age six that and your inner child uses to "protect" you. 

My limiting belief was that I'm not worthy. Spending time in the foster care system will do that to you. When I did the work required to remove that limiting belief, the floodgates of abundance opened for me. Abundant confidence. Abundant wisdom. Abundant self-love. Abundant clarity. And so much more!

Trust me when I tell you that it is literally ALL in your mind and it truly IS mind over matter. <3

We've all met our physical self, but have you met your soul? The image you have of yourself because of a mirror is not the most important part of you. The best part of you cannot be seen by a mirror. It's your best kept secret.

Your soul IS what defines you as a being. Not your looks or any of the material items you possess, which are the mainstays of the ego. You soul is your most valuable asset and came free of charge in the body you have. 

If you cannot accept your soul, you will not be able to accept another's soul. When souls are not allowed to meet, the only feeling that thrives in that kind of environment is discontent. Your unhappiness with your life becomes the unhappiness for others. You, and only you, can determine how you feel every moment of everyday. Trying to pin this responsibility onto others is futile. 

Where ever you are at on your life's journey is because you allow it to exist (good and bad). You have the power to change everything just by changing your mind. Which you are allowed to do by the way! Taking care of you may cause other beings to have discomfort, but that is on them, not on you. Your soul is deserving of your love. To not love oneself means you are unable to love. Full stop. <3

Any choice you make is for you to own regardless of how you came to be in that moment. There is no one to blame or give accolades to except yourself. That is where it starts and stops.

We believe that things outside of our self has something to do with our life's path and therefore we can somehow "blame" what is no longer there. 

For example: You hear gossip from someone. You choose to take that gossip and share it with another person. It turns out that you are then confronted by the person you are gossiping about. You try and blame the gossip on whom you heard it from but they are no longer "there" and you have to own your part. You made a choice.

For example: You hear gossip from someone. You let the person sharing the gossip know that you are not interested in their negativity. In fact, you let the person know how you feel about people who gossip. It turns out that the person's integrity that you saved hears about your honesty and offers you a six digit salary to come and work for them in their Fortune 500 company. You made a choice. 

When you do good, you get good. When you do bad, you get bad. Doing anything with pure intentions allows the universe's energy to match your energy. Doing anything with impure intentions allows the universe's energy to match your energy. You will always reap what you sow. 

From The Color Purple: Celie - "Everything you've done to me, already done to you." 

​Believe that. <3

Limiting beliefs are the reason why we are unable to reach our fullest potential as a being. 

From birth to age six your mind is a sponge. It has no filter. Everything said or done around you and to you will form your thoughts for the rest of your life. Someone or something is influencing you to see YOUR life in a certain way. Your ego or your soul will emerge as the victor from this influence. 

If you are loved for being you, that is how you will face the world. If you are unloved for being you, that is how you will face the world. The inner child does have that much clout.

The good news is that you, and you alone, have the power to change your limiting beliefs anytime you want to. Understanding limiting beliefs is instant, changing your mind about them takes work.  

My limiting belief, having been in foster care from age one and a half to age six, was that I am not worthy of love. It took a lot of searching for my soul as an adult to understand that it wasn't exterior love that was missing from my life, it was interior love. I had to love myself in order to be loved. 

It is impossible to attain your heart's desire when deep down inside you don't feel worthy to have the desire. We unwittily self-sabotage our pure intentions with thoughts that have survived in our mind and nowhere else. 

You are enough. You've always been enough. Time to do the work to find out why you don't agree with me. <3

Even if you live your life everyday with pure intentions, you are still going to face hardships. Being a good person doesn't mean that you get a pass, but it does mean that the negative blips will be short lived. 

Karmic energy must do its thing to ensure that balance is kept. Do good, get good. Do bad, get bad. 

Good meaning...service to others. 
Bad meaning...service to yourself.

This is not to say that you shouldn't care for yourself, because you ARE worthy of personal care. What this means is that if you allow ego to dictate your life, you are most likely going to have many rough patches. if you allow your soul to lead you, you are most likely going to have very few rough patches.

We lose belief in our self when we allow things that are on our external to influence us. Friends, family, non acquaintances, media, internet, books...you get the idea. All these things only have one way into you and that is through your six senses. YOU ultimately get to decide what you want to have floating around in your mind.

If you lose belief in yourself its because you need to unload a whole pile of stuff that doesn't belong in your mind. You need to sift through the dung and find your soul. Life gets much much easier when you accept your soul, which to many is as elusive as a unicorn. <3

Faith, spirituality, source, higher power, creator, universe, divinity.....call "it" what you will, but be kind while you are doing it. Anyone who can believe in something bigger than themselves understands that doing so means that you understand true love. 

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

It is impossible for a human to understand the magnitude of God, source, higher power, creator, universe. To do so would put us imperfect beings into a state of fear which is not our normal state of being. Our normal state of being is to love. 

All of the mayhem that is seen in the world today is caused by us. All the love that is seen in the world today is caused by us. We determine our karmic energy. Generations before us have contributed to it. If we want a world that finds us in a state of love WE have to make that happen. 

Covid19 gave us an opportunity to understand. It was a moment in time for us to realize our true potential when we make the effort to love. Unity IS possible. Our negative use of our energy is what makes it seem impossible. <3

This is such a great excerpt from J.R.R. Tolkien, author of The Hobbit and The Lord of the Rings. 

He is reminding us that things are not always as they appear to be and to never discount anyone from being able to achieve extraordinary things. 

"From the ashes a fire will be woken" is profound because ashes can conceal a tiny ember that only needs the breath of life to make it glow and to ignite a flame for a roaring fire to be had. 

This is us humans. We have such an ember inside of us, it is called a soul. With the right kind of love and attention it can ignite and become the beacon that leads you to your purpose. 

We are not here to just be here. Our purpose is to ignite our soul and then help others to ignite their soul causing a wild fire of love to sweep over the earth. It isn't fantasy, it is truth and it is possible. 

We are all born with a glittering heart of gold which cannot be seen by others. Life has a way of layering us with "stuff" which dims our heart, but doesn't diminish the fact that it is still golden. "All that is gold does not glitter". 

Find your ember (your soul), give it the love and attention of which it is deserving, and then watch how it makes your golden heart glitter again. <3

Although no one has seen a live dinosaur, it is accepted as truth that they are a part of our history. What a sight it must have been, to have this species roaming the earth. Or the Romans and their barbaric way of life. The building of the pyramids is a head scratcher too. And what about all these UFO sightings?

We believe the stories of these past events to be true, so why is there such controversy over a human named Jesus whose father is God? Why can't his-story be as readily believed as is the other phenomenal things we think are true?

Jesus played his role in his-story. He had to as a means to give a visual of God, because people "can't" believe what they "can't" see, hear, smell, touch, or taste.

The topic of Jesus is too large for a mere blog. What I'd like to leave you with is this: The past is a story. The past, the now, and the future IS his-story. Don't believe it? Yes you can. <3