It comes as a real surprise to people when they realize that they are not always right. The work that is required to come to that understanding isn't possible for some beings. Their subconscious mind is locked and cannot be opened without their acknowledgment.

The acknowledgement that is required is recognizing that their ego is running the show. And that the ego definitely doesn't like to be told that it is wrong. When challenged, the ego will rear its ugly head and someone is going to get hurt...emotionally or physically. The ego enjoys seeing this as it feels a sick and twisted power that is not real.

If you are an ego driven person, its important to recognize the pain this causes you and others. If you are a person who is bullied by an ego driven person, its important to recognize the pain this causes you and others.

For the bullies in the crowd, be judgeless and judge less. You will thank yourself for that in the long run and others will be thankful too. <3

"The only thing we have to fear is fear itself." Franklin D. Roosevelt

It took me a long time to understand what this actually meant. Fear is an illusion. It is a feeling, not a thing. The only place fear can be tangible is in your mind. It cannot be found anywhere else except in your mind. You create fear and you can end fear. 

So, it is true then, that the only thing we have to fear is fear itself. Fear is what holds us back from becoming the being that we want to be. It is what gives us false feelings. You have control over what you fear and what you don't fear. You get to decide.

What do you fear? Is it real or is it something that you have created in your mind? Do the work on yourself to release your fears and allow yourself to live your best life. You deserve it. <3

You get to choose how you feel in any given moment. No one gets to choose that for you. How you react to someone else is totally on you, not on them. 

If someone is invoking good or bad feelings in you, those feelings belong to you, not to them. You are choosing to feel that way regardless of the other person's actions.

An elder taught me an important life lesson and its actually the topic of chapter thirty-five in my book. She said, "Pay it no mind".  Don't give attention to something that has no relevance to you. If someone chooses a negative behaviour, pay it no mind. If someone says a hurtful thing to you, pay it no mind. Her teaching is that your mind should be on how YOU are living your life and less about how others are living theirs. Set your boundaries and then go ahead and live your life in a good way.

It's then that you will find the happiness you seek. <3

Way too much time and energy in life gets spent trying to be seen as “normal”.  Why be normal when you can stand out?!   
 
I am talking about standing out in your character, not your personal appearance.  Stand out by going the extra mile, by being extra kind and compassionate toward others, and by living a life of integrity. 

Every day we have the choice to go beyond the average or the typical. Why set the bar at ordinary when you can be extraordinary?!

Don’t lower your standards to fit in with the crowd.  Be the example to others around you for them to raise their standards too.  Be a leader with unbendable values, kindness, compassion, a charitable heart, and the confidence to stand alone for what is right! <3

"If we had no winter, the spring would not be so pleasant; if we did not sometimes taste of adversity, prosperity would not be so welcome." Anne Bradstreet

The reason that life is a mindset is because there is only ever now, this moment, that is all we have. Hanging onto something that isn't serving you hinders you from living in the now. 

Release the junk. By junk I mean anything that isn't yours to own. If someone hurt your feelings, release it. It's for the other person to own, not you. Their need to hurt your feelings has nothing to do you with you and everything to do with them.

If you've hurt someone else's feelings, that IS for you to own. Forgive yourself and use the lesson to not do it again to anyone else. You don't need that kind of junk clogging your peace.

When you live in peace, you are living. Nothing to keep track of except being your authentic self. Try it. You will thank yourself. <3

It is true that empathy for a fellow being is important, but I would go so far as to include our whole earth and all things living too.

As an empathetic person I am always surprised at people's insensitivity to another's suffering. I cannot fathom using someone else's vulnerability for my amusement. 

The consolation I feel when people bully like this is that the universe will eventually dole out equal suffering to the bully. (For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction).

We must be mindful of what we put out there, because it will come back to us at some point...good and bad. <3

An excerpt from "As A Man Thinketh" by James Allen (1903):

"Man is made or unmade by himself; in the armory of thought he forges the weapons by which he destroys himself; he also fashions the tools with which he builds for himself heavenly mansions of joy and strength and peace. By the right choice and true application of thought, man ascends to the Divine Perfection; by the abuse and wrong application of thought he descends below the level of the beast. Between these two extremes are all the grades of character, and man is their maker and master." <3

When people hear the word change they tend to cringe inwardly or outwardly. I don't think of it as change, I think of it as adapting. 

Adapting to what is going on in your three meter comfort zone is all that matters. Trying to manage anything outside that zone will only bring expectations and unnecessary stress. 

Be open to what you can do to make your three meter comfort zone a peaceful place. If you are at peace than everything else will be at peace. When you are at peace it is easier to accept when "adapting" outside your comfort zone is important for your well-being.

Focus on your comfort zone, because its the only thing that is ever within your control. <3