Every single person on the planet earth has deep seeded feelings of unworthiness. Those feelings are held in our subconscious mind and it takes a lot of intense self work to become aware that you are aware of them.

No one else on planet earth is responsible for those feelings...you are. Regardless of how they got there, you are responsible for finding and changing them. If you don't, you have no one to blame but yourself. Full stop.

It's easy to go through life blaming someone for how you are today. That is unfair to yourself, because who ever made you feel a certain way doesn't know (or care) that you feel that way. Full stop.

You are wasting valuable time waiting for someone to come and save you. No one can save you. So, its up to you to save yourself. 

What I know for sure is this: If I'm not supposed to own "it" then "it" isn't taking up space in my limited haven of peace. I don't have the capacity to carry around everyone else's junk nor should I expect myself to. 

I am worthy of a life of MY choosing and that's exactly how I live it. <3

When my son was about a year and a half old I learned something very valuable in a parenting workshop that I continue to do 36 years later. Not just with my adult son, but with everyone.

We were told that your face sets the tone. If your child sees worry, they will worry. If the child sees anger, they prepare for your anger. If the child sees sadness, they will shoulder that and think its their fault. This wasn't to say that you shouldn't feel these things or that your child shouldn't learn these things. What it was meant to teach was, are you aware of what YOU are feeling? How do you deal with those feelings? Whatever you are feeling, is teaching to others how to treat you.

It took time and practice to be able to greet my son with a positive and welcoming smile every time I saw him. When he needed to understand that Mom wasn't having the greatest day, that conversation came after the smile. This allowed him to know that my not so great day had zero to do with him and everything to do with me. He didn't have to own what wasn't his to own.

Own your own feelings and don't burden others with them. They have their own feelings to manage. Allow others to own their feelings, you don't have to take them on. Be YOUR soft place for YOU first and others second. Start that smile from within and let others off the hook for what you yourself must own.<3

There is at least one person in your life who loves you. I hope that person is you.

There is all kinds of love in this world. We actually use the word too loosely. "I love chocolate cake"..."I love dogs"..."I love sports"....you get the idea.

Do you say "I love myself" as often as you say you love other things? Love of self has to come before love of anything else. Understanding yourself is the key to a life of peace. It's not your mission to figure everyone else out...which is impossible anyway! It's you that you should be focusing on.

If you want true love, find it within yourself, because you aren't going to find it anywhere else. You are loved...by you. <3

In Their Compassion and Kindness

They may never be of the very well known
But the seeds of good karma in their kindness is sown
In the good deeds they perform for them no financial gain
And recognition as such they feel no desire to attain
Their sort never become the toasts of the town
The people always willing for to help the financially down
And though few ever willing their praises to sing
Some joy to so many poor people they do bring
If everyone were like them there would not be poverty
Of war and malnutrition and homelessness the World would be free
They ought to be worthy of far greater note
Since of helping poor people their time and talents they devote
In their compassion and kindness great people indeed
And of more of their sort the human World is in need.

Francis Duggan

I heard a saying that resonates a lot with me now that I'm in the second half of my life: "You spend the first part of your life collecting things, and the second half getting rid of them". Isabel Allende

We are so busy getting things to impress others (and ourselves) that we clog our channels so the really important stuff doesn't get to us.

At some point we have our aha moment that "stuff" isn't what its all about. It's the inner work that is most important. Hopefully you learn this sooner than later.

The journey to understanding what is REALLY important in life is a personal one and everyone has their own path to walk. It's  not an easy road to get where you need to be, but its definitely worth the trip! What is no longer serving you that you can let go of to make space for the important stuff? <3

We all have a voice in our head. I was shocked to learn that not everyone understands this. How is it possible that some are aware of the voice and others are not?

There is no judgement for that. Everyone is on their own journey. It's not for us to say how far along in a journey someone should be. There are people more aware than you and there are people less aware than you. That is the way it is.

Your mission is to know where YOU are in your journey on how to walk your own path. This means spending more time on your inside and less time on other people's outside. You will never truly understand another being. Full stop.

Do this for me. Stop and focus on your mind. Do you hear words rattling around in there. If you do, that's your ego. If you don't try harder. Hearing the words means that you are aware that you are aware. It all starts there. <3

"If you rest, you rust" is a term used to keep us on the go. We've been taught that if you sit around doing nothing, then that is how you will remain. That is bad advise.

It is imperative that we take time everyday to rest our mind. Slow it down. Organize your thoughts. This can't be done when distracted by things that probably don't really matter in the long run.

Stop ignoring the voice in your head, because it is most likely giving you unwanted information. Acknowledge the voice for what it is...your ego. Acknowledge that you are aware of your ego's antics. Heal what needs to be healed. Move forward being aware that you are now aware. Enjoy! <3

Some words resound in my mind that allow me to trust in myself..."no one is coming for you Kim". It is the absolute truth!

There isn't a single person on the planet earth that will do right by you. No one. So, because that is true, you have to build a relationship with yourself. 

Doing this involves solitude in order to learn to love yourself. Being alone isn't a negative thing like society wants you to think it is. Being alone is a blessing if you use the time wisely. 

When you can learn to appreciate who you are you will find that others will appreciate you too. Be alone. Do the work. Find peace. <3

Happiness is not found outside of yourself. It is an allusive emotion that you manufacture from your inside.

You have to find happiness, it does not find you. It is possible to live with happiness every day...if you want it to be there. 

Feeling gratitude brings happiness. You can't feel grateful and have negative emotions at the same time. 

​Choose to be grateful. Choose happiness. <3

The absolute hardest virtue for me to accept is patience. When it comes to my free will, I feel I have pretty good self control. I can say no or yes and mean it. 

However, when I'm waiting on something that I feel should be happening, my patience wears thin. It's in those moments that I have to check in with myself and determine what my intention is supposed to be.

I ask myself the all important question: "Are you trying to control something that is not yours to control?". I've come to understand that delays and detours happen when I'm messing where I shouldn't be messing. 

So, I have to release the control and allow God, Creator, Universe, Higher Power, Source From All That Is, to do what is supposed to be. I have to trust that I will get there if I remove my biggest roadblock....myself! <3