Did you know that fear is not real? It literally is all in your mind. 

I like to use this simple example of how our mind controls us. There is no boogey man under your bed or in your closet, but for some reason your mind thinks there is. Your mind has had an experience that has made it believe that something is there. And because you think you cannot control your mind, you are forced to contend with an imaginary "boogey man".

From "As A Man Thinketh" by James Allen (1903): "The soul attracts that which it secretly harbors; that which it loves, and also that which it fears; it reaches the height of its cherished aspirations; it falls to the level of its unchastened desires - and circumstances are the means by which the soul receives its own."

When you allow fear to shape your path, your purpose cannot be seen. You will move aimlessly through life, knowing there is more, but are too afraid to get there. Stop and ask yourself where the fear is coming from. 

Your mind is a powerful thing, use it to get what you want in life. That's why you have it in the first place. <3

I thought my greatest life lesson was learning how to be patient. But when I drilled down deeper on what that means, I learned that I was patient, but what I lacked was trust.

Trust in myself. Trust in others. Trust in God, Creator, Universe, Higher Power, Source of all that is. 

So, I drilled down deeper to find out why trust wasn't a strength for me. I didn't have to go far into my mind to know the answers. My childhood memories conjured up enough reasons for distrust to be present in my now. 

Recognizing that all those emotions were nowhere else except in my brain was the aha moment I needed. They exist only because I allow them to exist. They are not a part of my now. It was okay to let them go.

Trusting myself allowed me to learn to trust others. And it also gave me patience to give space to others for them to learn to trust their selves. Everything always comes back around to self. Be patient. What will be, will be. <3   

I did a workshop once that helped me to drill down and find out what I value as a being. The assignment ranked what you valued in a list from 1 - 5. After I ascertained the list, I had to write a mission statement using the words in my list. 

My list: Faith, Wisdom, Respect, Honesty, Empathy

My mission statement: "With faith comes the wisdom to have respect for yourself, to be honest with yourself to have empathy for others". 

I wasn't surprised by the words that determined what I value, nor was I surprised with how my mission statement worked out. What surprised me was the affirmation I felt after finally putting into words what my soul always knew. What do you value? How do you use your values on a daily basis? <3

It was reading Eckhart Tolle's book "The Power of Now" that I received my first aha moment. Before reading that book and his book "A New Earth" I knew I knew "something", but I just couldn't put my finger on it. 

His books articulated in words what my mind already inherently knew. I was fascinated by that understanding. If he and I felt this way, then surely we all must feel this way and not yet realize it.

After years of digging for answers I have awakened wisdom that has changed my views about life. You'll note that I said "awakened". This is because we all have the wisdom, but not everyone wants to do the work to discover it. 

Simple math for living life described can be in three ways, but the outcomes are the same.

Feel + Do + Trust
Intention + Attention + Surrender
Goal + Action + Let God

​Ask and ye shall receive....but remember, it won't always come as you think it should come. It will come as it is meant to be. <3

Everything will happen exactly as they are supposed to, when they are supposed to, and how they are supposed to. Our part is to trust that what will be, WILL be.

Our humanness allows impatience to bring us frustration. Our humanness allows expectations to bring us disappointment. 

Once you have asked God, Creator, Universe, Source of all that is, for what you desire, you have to let it go. You need to watch for the signs for the "next steps" or "action" that you must take. Your desire(s) won't come without you doing some of the work on your behalf.

Then you must do the hardest thing of all which is to trust...to surrender...to let God. If you meddle in this part of your ask you will prolong the wait time. If you leave it alone and allow all the variables to happen that need to happen, you will be rewarded.

Upon receipt of your ask, don't pick it apart. Don't say "this isn't what I wanted". Say thank you. Feel grateful. You've been blessed. <3

You may have been told from time to time to "dig deep" when you are feeling hopeless. As far as you are concerned you have dug as deep as you can. 

Thankfully there is always another layer of "deeper" to uncover. We don't believe this because we have been conditioned to believe that we have a threshold for our being. This is untrue.

There is no cap on how "deep" one can go within oneself. It is your unwillingness to want dig down and find yourself that has to be accepted. You and only you can overcome life's obstacles. It is always all up to you. 

The next time someone says "dig deeper" trust that they believe in you and your ability to uncover another layer of your life's truth. <3

If you can't love yourself, you are not going to be able to love someone else the way they deserve to be loved.

How you want someone to love you is how you should love yourself first. Set the example. Set the standard.

No one is going to be able to love you like you are able to love yourself. You are worthy of self-love. You are worthy to be loved. 

Start with yourself. Learn to love what the mirror is reflecting back at you. The right person will love you in the same way. <3

It is true that everything that comes into your existence is there for a reason...good and bad. No one gets out of here without balancing their karma.

Something you thought was insignificant or forgotten about that caused someone else harm is always in play. Sometimes karma is swift and other times it comes when you think all is well and all you can say then is "what the f*ck". 

It's not God, Creator, Universe, Source of all that is, that is against you. You going against yourself is what brings unwanted karma at a time when you really don't want it to be there. 

Don't say "why me", say instead, "why not me". Why shouldn't I have to make amends for negatives I've done? On the flip side, when its all good happening, don't say "why me", say instead, "why not me". The logic here is that we are deserving of payback for the good and bad that we do. Soooo...it's best to do all things with pure intentions so good sticks around! <3

Do you judge others? Do you judge others without an understanding of who they are? Do you judge others because you fear you are being judged? 

Take a moment and ask yourself why you feel that you are superior to other beings. What makes you more of a perfect being than anyone else? There is no answer you can give that will make this true.

We are all equally imperfect beings. We are all fragile beings whose life can end in the blink of an eye. 

Instead of using our time on earth to one up each other, we should use it to lift each other up. I am you. You are me. Hurting me hurts you. Hurting you hurts me. Lets stop doing that. <3

Having even one person believe in you is more than enough, but belief in yourself has to take priority over anything.

Prior to publishing my first book the words swirling around in my head were "no one is going to read it" "its not worthy of publication" "why would anyone care about your book?". 

These words held me back from publishing my book for 20 years. That length of time was needed so I could work on myself...so I could learn to believe in myself.

Peeling off all the negativity given to me by others took courage. Not having those layers of "protection" forced me to find my soul which became my rightful protector. 

If you aren't pursuing your passion because someone told you that you weren't worthy, please forgive them. Then forgive yourself. Then pursue your passion. Believe in yourself. It's the only thing that matters and the only thing that will ever matter. <3